Thoughts on Turning 30
Today, my darling husband and his twin brother Sean turn 30. THIRTY! 30. Wow. I know, I know, 30 is nothing nowadays– but it’s a milestone for me (just wait until it’s MY 30th birthday– eeek!). It’s kind of crazy to be married to a 30-year-old– it feels very proper, very adult, very serious. But the boys, of course, think nothing of it.
I attempted to pry into their emotional world the other day, asking them leading questions about turning 30 and what they thought about being 30 and how it would change them. I got nothing in response. These boys had absolutely no reaction to the big 3-0. It was less than a number to them– it was a non-issue. At first it was frustrating to me: how can you really feel nothing about such a milestone birthday? But then it became refreshing. Why should age be an issue? Being young shouldn’t stop you from following your dreams; becoming “older” shouldn’t stop you either.
John and Sean are weird. They’re both professional athletes, which means the majority of their lives have been lived like teenagers: the biggest job they’ve ever held was comprised of running daily, working out, eating a ton, and sleeping. That’s been their biggest responsibility. They love it– and they have no intention of stopping anytime soon. Turning 30 doesn’t mean stress or AARP cards or adopting stereotypical adult lifestyles. Instead, today is their annual renewal of enthusiasm for their lifestyles and faith in their choices. Turning 30 has no negative repercussions for John and Sean; they’re heading into this new era of their lives with as much passion and cool confidence as they did their 20s and teen years.
I wish they had given me some quippy, wise quotes that I could pass along (they didn’t– they caught on to the interview questions I was asking and buttoned up their lips), but I think this is an overall tenant of their personalities: they never, ever look at another person (their running talent, their life choices, their abilities) with jealousy. They’re never envious. If you’re worried about what someone else is doing, you’re not living your own life the right way– and that’s a trademark quality they’re taking in to their 30s. Happy Birthday to my incredible husband and his (eligible! 30, flirty, and thriving!) younger brother. I cannot wait to see where your 30s take you!
wedding photo by Jen Fariello!