Team Jefferson Makes It!
Guys. We made it. One year ago today… was the best day of my life.
It hasn’t been easy getting here. In case you couldn’t tell, life has been a bit of a jumble these past few months (hence, the blog that barely seems to be moving), but I promise, when it all comes together, it’s going to be better than ever. Mr. Jefferson and I have been going through some big ole life changes together and we’re making plans, moving forward, one mini step at a time. I don’t know where we’ll end up, but we’ll get there…
It’s been a tough year. What they don’t tell you is that being a newlywed IS tough. Sure, it can be a year-long honeymoon, where poolside drinks, travel, sex three times a day, financial plenty, and easy communication is a way of life. But it’s not always like that. I’ve hinted at my struggles with depression and happiness in the past– and these past few months of high highs and low lows haven’t helped. As pretty and lovely as it all looks on the outside… you never know what’s really going on inside a relationship (be it one with a friend, a partner, a husband/wife, and– most importantly– yourself).
Regardless of all that, here we are– one year later. What have I learned from this past year?
One Lesson from Year One of Marriage:
1. Communication is EVERYTHING.
John and I have a long road ahead of us– because we didn’t communicate very well this first year. Arguably, we didn’t communicate well or enough or efficiently during our courtship, but we definitely dropped the ball during Year One. It’s a two-way street– things that I kept inside and things he kept inside– and now we’re standing at a dead end trying to figure out how to breach the wall.
If you are a bride, a newlywed, or even a few years in to this crazy adventure called marriage, take a moment today (for our anniversary, please!) to stop and examine your communication with your partner. Can you truly tell each other everything? How do you feel when news– good or bad– gets shared? How do you two deal with each other’s emotions? Where do you find yourself holding back? I’ve said it before and I will say it until I die– communication is the key to a successful relationship. Without it… you have nothing.
Cheers to one year!
photo, as always, by the very best– Jen Fariello!